We’ve all done it; whether you’re ranting at the misdemeanors of other drivers, screaming at the kids, threatening the printer’s life or swearing at the TV, moments of pure rage are part of our lives. When they do happen, it’s a sign you need a little TLC to ease your frayed nerves. Here are just a few simple ways to still those troubled waters.
Keep Calm and Make Tea
There’s nothing quite as soothing as a nice cup of tea, but making it a nice cup of matcha tea has much scientific evidence to back up those claims. Matcha tea is shade-grown, making it rich in the amino acid L-theanine which promotes profound relaxation making it perfect for getting through a stressful day with supreme equanimity. Check out this study which shows the relaxing effects of L-theanine and this one which shows how it reduces stress.
The slow release of energy due to theophylline in matcha tea supports the proper functioning of adrenal glands and maintains optimum hormonal levels.
Spray the Rage Away
Smells have a marked effect on your psyche and your body. Aromatherapy stimulates the olfactory system. This sends a signal to the limbic system that controls emotions, causing chemicals to be released which make you feel relaxed and calm. Combining aromatherapy with massage will supersize your chill, but if you need a quick fix, this spray will spritz your rage away.
Combine in a spray bottle:
- 2 tablespoons witch hazel or vodka
- 10 drops lavender essential oil
- 6 tablespoons water
This spray will also help with sleep, so spritz your pillow before you hit the hay.
Mindfulness is the practice of living in the moment and being aware of ourselves and others. When you are mindful, you are less likely to lose your cool.
Just five or ten minutes of meditation before you head off on a long trip or a traffic-ridden downtown excursion you know if going to push your buttons can really help you to have a more pleasant experience.
Get your free guided meditations here or just sit quietly by yourself before you set off.
Use your Safe Word
Find a word that you think sounds funny like booby-trap, Tatertot, brouhaha, fuddy-duddy… you get the idea. Now make this your safe word. When you feel yourself losing control of your anger, speak this word to help bring your awareness back to the situation. Your safe word also acts as a warning to take it down a notch and gives you some space while you regroup. Interrupting your anger gives you the time you need to regain control and get a moment of reflection so you can act in a way that’s in keeping with your most patient self.
Getting out into natural settings, reducing work stress, meditation, exercise, healthy eating and laughing your ass off from time to time are long-term solutions to stress management that will make your life happier and will prevent road rage from happening in the first place.